"A coach is someone who tells you what you don't want to hear, who has you see what you don't want to see, so you can be who you have always known you could be" -- Tom Landry
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"A coach is someone who tells you what you don't want to hear, who has you see what you don't want to see, so you can be who you have always known you could be" -- Tom Landry |
         
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Alive & Well ArchivesAugust 2002**************************************************** TODAY'S
QUOTE: "Nobody, but nobody, can make it out here alone" **************************************************** TODAY'S TOPIC: Support Systems Do
you have a best friend, buddy or significant other who supports you?
Do you have a team of people cheering for you regardless of what’s
happening in your life? I
was reminded of the importance of good support systems last month.
As I told you in my last newsletter, my cat was very sick.
In fact, she died on July 31. She
was my companion for 22 years, so I was quite devastated when she died, and I
felt tremendous pain and sorrow. But
thankfully, I have very supportive friends and family who helped me get through
the rougher days, and that made all the difference.
It’s
very important to have support in your life – to have people you can turn to
when you just need unconditional love or someone to listen to you.
As the quote above says, “Nobody, but nobody, can make it out here
alone.” Many people act as a lone
ranger and think they don’t need support.
But my friends, we all need support.
I
have a best friend, Meg, whom I call whenever I need to talk or get support.
When my cat died, she listened to me cry many times.
She also made me laugh and made me feel loved at a time when I needed it.
It’s so nice to know that when I need support and love, I can call on
her. This makes it where I don’t
have to go through things alone. When
I need encouragement or I just need to talk, I have someone who listens.
Yes,
having a support buddy is critical. But
just one person is not enough. No
person can be there for you all the time. People
have their own lives and although they may be there for you most of the time,
they can’t always be there. Also,
one person cannot fulfill all your needs all the time.
Therefore, it’s important to have multiple people you can call at any
given time. Otherwise, you may be
stuck without support at a time when you really need it.
In addition to Meg, I also count on my boyfriend, my mom and other good
friends. As
I’ve explained, a good team of support buddies is important when times are
rough. They’re also important in
your daily life. Sometimes, we fail
to believe in ourselves. Sometimes,
we give up on our dreams or think they aren’t achievable.
This is where good support buddies really help.
We all need people who *believe* in us unconditionally.
We need people who won’t give up on us when we have a setback.
We need people who believe in our dreams even when we don’t.
Essentially, we need cheerleaders. Lately,
I’ve really noticed how nice it is to have cheerleaders.
I’ve been sharing my dreams with my support buddies, and they’ve all
encouraged me tremendously. Wow!
That feels so nice to have people fully supporting and believing in me.
It gives me additional momentum to keep working on my dreams. How
about you? Do you have a good team
of support buddies? If you don’t,
the first step is to be an excellent support buddy.
If you want people to support you, you must support them.
If you want people to believe in you, you must believe in them.
If you don’t have a team of buddies, start by fully supporting the
people around you. ***************************************************** Coaching Challenge ***************************************************** Identify
at least three people in your life who are support buddies or who could become
support buddies. Let them know you
appreciate their support. Share a
dream with them and let them hold the vision for you.
Let them cheer you on. If
you don’t have a team of people who support you, work on creating a team.
Start by being a good support person for others.
Also, consider hiring a trained professional, such as a coach, to support
you and be your cheerleader.
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